What is woman? Let's explore it together. Let's show them.

This is a vision I’ve been holding close to my heart—a transmission, really. Radiance Temple isn’t just a program or a community; it’s a frequency, a remembering, a reimagining. In this piece, I’m speaking into the essence of what this space is truly meant to be: a virtual temple rooted in feminine wisdom, where expansion and empowerment happen not through force, but through softness, alignment, and erotic sovereignty. Let these words be a doorway into the deeper energy of what we’re creating together. 🌹

Transcript:

Okay, I want to talk through the vision that I have for Radiance Temple.

In order to really sink into the vision of Radiance Temple, I have to think of the hologram image of the Temple—that is based a little bit on the research and history around goddess-oriented temples and the conclusions I've drawn from my own heart about what that may have been like for the women.

The hologram image of Radiance Temple has to do with what I feel is a gap in the spiritual development of a woman.

There is acceptance of women and the nature of women in some places in our culture. For example, when I brought my daughter to an all-girls school, they said, "We know girls. We know how to take these eighth graders who are becoming freshmen—these rising freshmen—and help them feel comfortable in this new atmosphere." I thought that was really profound and beautiful. Like, oh yeah, that is what a single-gender school is about. It's about being with your people and tapping into the nature of young women and helping them come out of their shell.

But our culture is directed towards a certain way of living life, influenced by patriarchal beliefs. So even though we have organizations and institutions that support the development of women as women, there's this end point or end goal of fitting into culture and society and processing your pains around that.

Radiance Temple is really built around this idea that we're not even really sure—it's not fully present in our culture—what it would be like to fully embrace women as women. The fullness of being a woman as a very integrated part of this world.

Obviously, many people have done a great job at figuring out their path and living into their fullness. But generally speaking—women are paid less than men. Generally speaking, the workplace is built around productivity and bottom lines. We've done detriment to the environment because of that.

We could say, generally speaking, that if you're in a powerful position in your job and you show tears, that's seen as a sign of weakness or your inability to handle tough situations. In general, what I'm getting at is that if the nature of feminine energy was woven into our culture—our upbringing, our social structures, and our institutions—they might look different. They probably would look different.

And I think that because of the harm that's been done to women—being looked at as secondary or inferior over the last couple thousand years—our DNA holds wounds. These wounds come not just from our own personal experience, but from our parents and grandparents.

Women were burned at the stake. The feminine was hidden. There was an effort to destroy and hide the spiritual nature of the feminine—women’s spirituality and ways of worship: cycling with the moon, cycling with nature, the purely organic expression of life. And sex is a part of that.

It is very much a part of that. The erotic is part of the dance of life.

We get some sex education in schools. If you have a religion, you may have constraints around sex from your religion. Maybe your parents said something. Maybe they didn’t say anything. But being sexual is a part of being a woman. Not just a woman—it’s a part of everything.

At its core, Radiance Temple is a space for exploring and experiencing the fullness of being a woman. Being emotional. Being intuitive. Working cooperatively and collaboratively. Being a part of a greater whole. Not having to only follow the trends, but following your intuitive guidance and your own inner creative expression. Feeling seen. Feeling a deep connection with people. Allowing sexual energy to be expressed in ways that feel organic and natural—not shaming or fear-based.

There’s this thing going around the internet—it asks, “What is a woman?” And a lot of times you’ll see people just freeze like a deer in headlights, not knowing how to answer that question.

I was there for sure when I started diving into sexual expansion and studying sexuality, having compassion for people who don’t fit into the binary—like trans or non-binary folks. Running that through my body and mind. I remember showing up specifically at a women’s circle and saying out loud, “I’m just trying to figure out what this is—what does it mean to be a woman?”

That lives on. That question continues. I don’t feel the need myself to keep asking it, but I think it’s important for a woman to ask herself if she feels inhibited in her expression.

Personally, learning about my erotic energy and how that can serve me has played an important role in how I connect with myself as a woman.

To me, it’s like learning to ride or tame a wild horse. It’s a big energy, and it can run very wild. I don’t want it to control me. If I act out from my sexual energy and then feel regret, shame, or guilt—if I do things that aren’t in alignment for me—that doesn’t serve. So alignment is very much at the core of the work of Radiance Temple.

It’s the space where we allow ourselves to explore and expand: the emotional, the intuitive, the sentient, the sexual, the heart-forward, the logical—all the pieces. Where we explore and expand so we come out of the shadow and come to know our alignment.

The reason we need support in our alignment is because our alignment might not fit into culturally acceptable standards. That can be very confusing. The world isn’t necessarily very open to the wildness that’s actually part of being a human, or being a woman. We try to fit ourselves into a mold or a box.

I want women to feel very empowered in their alignment. And in order to do that, you have to get very clear with yourself. And in order to get very clear with yourself, you have to be honest and let out these thoughts, these feelings, these things you think are taboo. You also have to pluck out the limiting beliefs, the dogma, the programs in your brain and body that don’t align—but were put there either as protective mechanisms from trauma or from the indoctrination of wherever you came from.

Whatever is causing you the fear or dissociation or disconnection from your true alignment—because I need you, the world needs you, to know your yeses and to know your nos. That is how our softness becomes our strength.

We don’t take an equal place in the world by becoming forceful or becoming like men. Women are equal but different. And I don’t even know if we fully understand what that could look like.

We accept certain archetypes of the feminine in our culture. We accept the Virgin Mary. We accept the wise grandmother—who is relatively asexual, beyond her stage of eroticism. We accept the young maiden—but she is our property and she’s also prey.

We accept some of the faces of the feminine. But others are wildly uncomfortable for the world—like the face of the raging, protective mother. The one who would do anything to protect her children. Kali Ma. The face of Durga. She’s sexually embodied and empowered in her own right. Sovereign. Not needing others to help her make her decisions.

So reeling this in and thinking about this holographic temple—I think about it as a playground. Because that’s definitely a part of it. A place where you can allow your feminine energy to come through and play. Let down your inhibitions and flow, in whatever way that feels good in your body and in your life.

Let yourself be innocent around your sensual and sexual self and explore what it looks like to let this powerful sexual energy move through your body—illuminating you. Let it be a very innocent feeling. Having sex is natural and beautiful and celebrated.

So it’s a playground. It’s part of the expansion process—the play and the innocence. And then there’s also the coming into alignment. Putting some containment and direction around your sexual energy. Letting it be messy. Letting it be imperfect, while also learning the skills to contain and direct the energy of your life.

Your creative and sexual energy is your life. That is really the sovereign woman—the fullest expression of the sovereign woman: aligned, expanded, and empowered.

And I just want to say too, that’s where the ego can come in. She’s looking really good. She is beautiful, radiant, and powerful. Her words create. She knows how to get the pleasure she wants.

The ego can derail that progress if you become too attached to your individual expression. While we have to hold our individual expression as the light of the divine, we are also always part of something greater—interconnected to our community. That’s what keeps us grounded and expanded.

That brings me to another point about Radiance Temple: being able to witness a woman in her power. Sitting across from another woman you admire and seeing how beautiful she is—and you’re triggered. Your inner judgments start to come up. You start to feel less than. The competitiveness. The comparison.

Radiance Temple is a space for you to be present with all of that, while helping you with the tools and skills to come back to the collective.

And there’s discernment. There’s definitely healthy discernment where we set boundaries with certain people. That’s fine. I don’t think we all need to be friends in order to live in a collective way. We don’t have to choose to spend quality time with people we don’t feel great around. We don’t have to all like one another. It’s hard, but I think it’s the most valuable work we can do.

At the same time, we can still temper our competitive nature, our judgments, and comparisons—which will literally just keep us stuck in places of force and fighting. I would say discernment is the conscious expression of boundaries.

Everybody can rise to their fullness and ride the highs and lows on that journey. But your commitment to boundaries and discernment is how we create a safe space for everybody to do that.

I see Radiance Temple as a place for women to test themselves and calibrate with the outside world. If you were to envision yourself walking into this hologram—that is the energy of the container—I welcome any woman who feels aligned with the goals of allowing her erotic energy to fully express and bloom in her life and body.

Becoming the embodiment of love. Becoming sovereign. Having a clear voice. Clear discernment. While maintaining relationships in the collective and working on the human parts: judgment, competition, and comparison.

That is Radiance Temple.

Xo,

Emily